Following former first lady Barbara Bush's Funeral and her Husband getting hospitalised just a day after ,,

Its time to ponder how the left or remaining partner feels after a life and a lifetime together.

Then one day,the other haalf lives

None of these lifelong together kind of couples imagine an end or till an end does one part.

They live in a togetherness ,,in an in sync world that the departure of the one leaves the other alone and lonely.

To an extent,some of these lifelong couples,,

Including two that i know,or knew,,

The man was left and yet being an old man,,he felt alone lonely,no reason to live,he said so

The other half passed due to canncer

Life as they know it or knew it changes and suddenly 

Its all over.they never come back to happy as it once was for them before their partners left.

Some go into depression or sickness.

They live in a past perfect world that they reminisce all the time for,

And at times if the left one marries,its a new life if comparison to the older life especially if the departed treated them well and caring than the new one.

They cry secretly and silently.

But deep down they are hurting

Some feel no need to live again.they begin to exist.sort of disconnected with the rest of the world.

If the departed left the other young,they concentrate on bringing up the children.conciously not seeking any other life anew.

Its depressing and lonely for them.they should be understood and helped.

Sometimes the wife of the elderly man dies leaving him alone

And their children  think having the left partner and filling their life with grandchildren and fun or family stuff helps

The left one still feels that lossand feeling so left that literally they long to go to die as well and go be with their departed.

They dint know any other kife

But a synced life of being heard, cared for,supported,understood and loved and cherished.

Those ingredients make up for the lifelong commitment the two had in the first place.

Giving them undivided care and attention helps but doesnt alleviate the pain and feeling hollow lonely and alone.

So.e of these lifelong couples collapse on learning of the death of the other

Others get hospitalised because of extreme shock and a sudden attack of illness

Others do die soon after or shortly after hearing such news of their departed companion or after the funeral.due to heartbreak,a bleak future ahead,just something snaps and to an extent,the will to live or desire to live goes off.

When the mourners condole with them at funerals for example,the left partner is thinking of the memories of the past,

The long lifelong beautiful memories and then seeing a part of that gone or is going ,,forever, as with the burial being  sort like the end, going 

It takes a toll on the other half.

Lets all wish Former President  George Bush Recovery and Peace.